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You are here: Home / Unschooling / EU096: Ordinary Unschooling with Anna Brown and Pat Robinson

EU096: Ordinary Unschooling with Anna Brown and Pat Robinson

November 2, 2017 By Pam Laricchia 4 Comments

Anna Brown and Pat Robinson join Pam to chat about ordinary unschooling.Anna Brown and Pat Robinson join me to chat about ordinary unschooling. They have both always unschooled their children—Anna’s daughters are about to turn 18 and 20, and Pat’s son is 16 years old. We talk about the idea of “unschooling success stories,” the impact of the conventional “independence agenda” which starts very young in our culture, the incredible value of ordinary unschooling days, and lots more!

Quote of the Week

“I just want to take my moment here to encourage everybody to think about how we communicate with young people and instead of asking about school or college or life plans, talk about their favorite book or show, or have they been to any good restaurants or do they have a favorite place to hike, how their week’s going. Anything that actually connects you with the actual person standing in front of you.” ~ Anna Brown

Questions for Anna and Pat

You have both been on the podcast before, so let’s just do a quick recap for new listeners. How many children do you have and how long has your family been unschooling?

There’s a tendency for people new to the idea of unschooling to seek out “success stories” in an effort to “prove” to themselves that unschooling is a viable option before they make the leap. That’s understandable. But the challenge with that is, it can set up expectations on our children to “find their passion,” or “start a business at 15” etc. I saw a quote the other day, “Homeschooling is private school for poor people!” That attitude can make life challenging for unschooling kids, can’t it?

I think a big part of this issue revolves around how we choose to define success. That question was definitely part of my deschooling process because when we define success more conventionally, by accomplishments, that can be at odds with the unschooling lifestyle we’re trying to cultivate. How do you guys define “success” nowadays?

So, let’s talk about ordinary days and ordinary people. Unschooling parents and unschooling kids going about their ordinary days. When we redefine “success,” we see so much more goodness all around us, don’t we?

I also want to touch on the unschooling kids who are doing things that look more conventionally successful. I think what’s so different is the entire unschooling ethos within which they are living. They are choosing the things they do, not because they can be successful at them, but because they are interested in them. It’s not about having others see them as “successful,” or being judged “better than others.” It’s not about what others think at all. It’s all about their personal aspirations and goals. It takes some unschooling experience for parents to understand this though, doesn’t it?

Another thing I’d like to talk about, which is another aspect of conventional expectations that are so often tossed about, is when teens turn 18. It seems to be such a significant age for so many parents. Right there behind a child hitting “school age.” And even if you’ve been unschooling for years, when your first child approaches 18, you may find new concerns popping up around this. Or you might find others are starting to share their opinions with you. Have you found this?

Links to Things Mentioned in the Show

Anna’s website, Choosing Connection

Pat’s Facebook page, Heal Thyself, and her group, Heal Thyself Q&A

Episode Transcript

Read the transcript here

Filed Under: Unschooling Tagged With: life, teens, work

Comments

  1. Heather says

    November 2, 2017 at 7:42 pm

    I am SO overjoyed at this episode! Even before I started the audio, reading the summary at the beginning about “success stories” hit a giant “YES!” for me. Then, as I listened I just kept having A-Ha moments that give me this inspiration about writing from my current perspective: I’m way past the beginning stages of unschooling and still continuing on the never-ending path that ceaselessly unfolds my soul every day, but I still have fresh in my mind the conventional thoughts that plagued me and slowed my progress in the first couple of years. Maybe others who are new to unschooling could benefit from hearing about all the different phases I passed through to get over a conventional mindset. The world can always use more unschooling testimonials! I really feel blessed to have you veteran gals leading the way for us noobs 😉

    Reply
    • Pam Laricchia says

      November 3, 2017 at 6:13 am

      That’s wonderful, Heather! I’m so glad the episode resonated with you. 🙂

      And I love that you’re feeling inspired to write about your unschooling journey—the world can definitely use more unschooling testimonials!

      Reply
  2. Cordelia says

    December 8, 2017 at 10:14 am

    Thank you for this wonderful podcast. I have dabbled with unschooling for years. My sons are 18 and 15 and I feel sad that we have never made the complete leap. My older son loved the thought of it and my younger son thought it seemed crazy, so I have been wishy washy and wonder if we can transition now!!! They are unschooled in many ways but I know that I am caught in trying to get them ready for the conventional path even though I fully know that is not necessarily the way…

    Reply
    • Pam Laricchia says

      December 9, 2017 at 11:20 am

      I’m glad you’re finding the podcast helpful, Cordelia!

      It’s not too late to make the leap, if you choose. It can definitely be a lot of work to challenge so many of our conventional assumptions, but I think you’ll find it’s worth the effort. 🙂

      Reply

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